Gay Love Matters
Eric Schneider, M.Ed., D.Min.
"While my first sessions with Eric were met with suspicion, fear, and timidity, it only took a mere hour for me to place my trust in his benevolent care, and a mere few weeks for us to begin productively undoing the self-defeating mechanisms that I have felt so powerless against. Eric has been instrumental in making visible the very embedded and very real models of destructiveness that plague my life (and the particular lives of numerous LGBT individuals living in the city). Rendered legible, and finally understood as culturally contingent and therefore arbitrary, he has decluttered the space in my mind, making room for the potentiality of self meaning-making based on a life that is authentic, liberated, and fully present, and fully able to express and receive the gifts of love - be it of the self, or of others. Working with Eric is like having a comforting, assured hand walk you through the darkest corners of one's topographies of unattended trauma. Simultaneously reassuring, kind, compassionate, and gentle, Eric is also necessarily firm, assiduous, provocative, and perspicuous, matched with an easy, relaxed demeanor and ferocious intelligence."
Hansel Tan, Actor, NYC
"My work with Eric has not only helped me develop more intimate connections with the people in my life but more importantly with myself. I have worked with Eric individually and as a member of a number of groups over the past 15 years. These contexts have a common ground; a disciplined focus on the here and now experience accompanied by a practice of putting that experience into words. The group setting allows for authentic and empowering connections surrounding the commons experience. This is one of the best things to come out of my 19 years in NYC."
Andrew Magnes, Architect, NYC
"I started working with Eric to help me recover from a particularly traumatic break up. What I didn't expect was that in the process he would guide me towards a better understanding and appreciation of MYSELF... aside from all of the emotions I'd attached to that relationship. It was the beginning of an unexpected journey towards self discovery that continues to this day. He's not one of those "smile and nod" therapists. He got into the trenches with me and poses the tough questions that really made me think and feel. Eric is astute, witty and challenging. I'd recommend him to anyone seeking self knowledge and growth."
Shane Ballard, Artist, NYC
"I’ve never stopped learning from Eric – about the things that hold me back and how to overcome them; how to communicate - really communicate - with and listen to people; and a plethora of other concrete useable real-life tools that on a daily basis have made my life better. He has an incredible memory for things we discussed more than 10 years ago that I’ve long forgotten, particularly when I’m about to repeat a behavior that I had worked to remove from my repertoire of bad behaviors. Eric has always given me therapy I needed, not the therapy I thought or may have “wanted”. Which brings me back to the two main qualifications I had for selecting a therapist: that they clearly were smarter than me, and that I was confident they had the ability to accurately assess my mental health needs. Eric has always given me what I need, and has made me a healthier, happier, and better man in the process. .”
Rick Patt, MD, NYC
"What difference does Eric make in my life? Eric has made me feel, no matter what happens, I will make it through. He brings a sense of hope for relationships and helped me go through the most difficult feelings anyone could experience. And that is, sitting with myself. Eric's caring yet firm approach has been what I've sought in someone to help me along when I felt there was no hope. He has helped me to understand why I feel the way I do, which is something I've never experienced before. He has created experiences that I thought I could never experience. One of those was intimacy: making connections and relating to others. Eric brings an environment where gay men can come together and not feel as if we are the only ones out there, alone, struggling, feeling lonely. I am forever grateful the difference Eric has had in my life on relating with the most difficult person: myself."
Omar Zarita, NYC
Gay Love Matters!
Because we are a little bit different
Has your smart phone become your primary relationship?
Do you feel isolated, lonely and disconnected?
Do you spend your time longing and yearning for more meaningful connections?
The world we live in challenges our ability to connect. While we may yearn for deep and meaningful connections, there are many roadblocks that interfere with this very basic human need. As a result, many gay men feel frustrated, depressed, isolated, disconnected and despairing about their future. Some try and distract themselves from these feelings with drugs, alcohol and sex which, in the long term, actually tends to make things worse.
My mission is to help you connect, live and love freely while creating a life that is truly meaningful to you.
Let's chat and see if working together would be helpful and useful to you. Call me at 888-712-6023 and let's schedule your FREE 1/2 hour phone consultation.
Areas of Specialty
Many forces work against the formation of intimate relationships, especially when you live in NYC. Together we’ll identify and work through these issues. Perhaps you are one of those people who yearn for an intimate relationship but for some or many reasons, you have not been able to establish or maintain one. You’re definitely not alone.
The reality is that very few relationships endure without help. The good news is that there are predictable stages for gay relationships, and with the right tools and support, we can minimize the bumps and bruises that come with creating an enduring relationship.
We’re expected to know it all when it comes to sex, but we’ve never been given a manual. We also can carry very unreasonable and unrealistic expectations. If you are challenged by sexual self expression or dealing with some sexual issues, let’s talk about sex, baby.
Pre-marital counseling is not just a way of evaluating your current relationship, it’s also a look toward the future and ways to create and implement healthy strategies. The right talks will set your relationship up for success.
KINK AND POLY
For those exploring kink or non-monogamy, it’s important to work with a health care professional who’s familiar with your needs. My education, knowledge and experience in all identities, orientations, interests and erotic variations allows me to create a sex positive atmosphere for my clients.
About Dr. Eric
It is a sacred privilege and honor to work with you
There’s no one size fits all method for any one! You are unique and that requires a tailored approach. Our first meeting is about finding out what you want to really focus on and identifying what may be getting in your way from living and loving freely!
My work is informed by both Eastern and Western methods that often focus on increasing bodily awareness, tuning in and tracking affect and emotion in the present.
By working this way, we can heal old wounds, develop new skills, deepen and expand your understanding of yourself and who you are in the world.
Through our work together, you will learn to inhabit, hold, have and experience yourself in new and important ways that can enhance your intimacy with yourself as well as with others and future others. When it comes to our emotions we often lack the ability to know what we are feeling, let alone express it in effective ways. But when we access our full spectrum of emotions, our lives can be filled with richness, texture, meaning, and power.
I take great pride in the care and humanity of my practice and want to create the most satisfying sex and love lives as possible for my clients. Through my methods, I’m able to get to the heart of the matter quickly. If you’re considering speaking to a counselor, contact me to schedule a free 1/2 hour phone consultation.
LIVE Group Therapy
Tuesdays at 7PM
About LIVE Group Therapy
Next Group starts soon
We use words like authenticity, vulnerability and empathy and think what a great idea and that's where most just stop.
That's just the beginning.
Perhaps you have heard of Brene Brown, Ph.D., famous for her TED talk on the power of vulnerability. She said that after she discovered it, it took two years of intensive therapy to live it.
So how about you? Are you ready to live it and NOT just talk about it?
Group work is a powerful crucible for exploring, discovering, connecting and learning how to be with and share your authentic self. It is an amazing safe and contained space!
Benefits of group work;
Far less expensive!
Working with others shares the work!
Learning by experience the work of other members!
Experiential leaning is learning that actually changes your brain!
Here and now focus makes things so much clearer which empowers choice
Learning is immediate and applicable to your real life.
So if you are sick and tired of feeling isolated, alone, disconnected and living at a superficial level of entertainment, then let's talk and see if this group would be right for you!
Who are You, Really?
Deepen Your Understanding
Develop New Skills